Red Table Talk hit another deep conversation topic. Jada Pinkett Smith is really coming in hard with the roundtable conversations on a plethora of topics. Someone get Jada to replace Meghan McCain on The View! This time she’s talking about racism and she’s talking about it with Kristin Davis, who adopted black children. Woooo-weee, this a minefield of a conversation!
Kristin Davis says that she has had to deal with a shit ton of racism being the mom of two black children, and it’s made her realize just how lucky she is to be white. A fun realization for some, perhaps, but since Kristin has black children to care about she’s found it rather disheartening.
People says that Kristin spoke with Jada and her mom, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, about adoption and being the white mom of two black children. The episode is titled Should White People Adopt Black Kids?. Adrienne admitted at the beginning that this was a hot topic for her and she wasn’t sure what she was ready to hear, and you can tell that if Kristin stepped left, Adrienne would let her know about it. Luckily, Kristin didn’t step left and so Adrienne didn’t have to make her cry. Well she did cry, but only because of her own emotions.
Kristin talks about how she came to adopt, why she did it, and the long process. Since she ended up becoming the mother to a black daughter, Gemma, she talked to Jada and Adrienne about how as a white person, she can try to understand, but will never fully get, what it’s like being black today:
“This is what I want to say, from a white person adopting [black children]: You absolutely do not fully understand. There’s no doubt. There’s no way you could. It’s one thing to be watching [racism] happening to other people and it’s another thing when it’s your child. And you haven’t personally been through it. It’s a big issue.”
Kristin says she had a bunch of different moments which made her realize how hard she would have to work to raise her daughter since she would never understand her struggles the same way:
“It was a very harsh moment of understanding. I don’t know how every person of color has gotten through this. I don’t understand how you could take this every day. It lit a fire under me where I couldn’t be relaxed or casual [about racism]. But I will never be black, no matter how hard I try. … That is the truth, and we have to accept it. And therefore I will never be able to say to Gemma, ‘I understand how you feel because this happened to me.’ That’s what’s painful and hard. It made me on a mission to find a place where she was exposed to everything. It made me on a mission to put her in situations where I was the only white person.”
And if you think you’re going to get mad at Kristin for having two black kids, let alone one, listen up: she got a brother for her daughter who asked for one. So if you’re mad she has two black kids, take it up with Gemma:
“She said, ‘Mommy, I would really love a black little brother.’ And I was like, ‘I totally understand, baby.’ And then one day, there he was. And I tell you, my daughter didn’t bat an eye. She was like, ‘There he is.’ So beautiful. And then she held him and fed him. She’s just the best big sister.”
Kristin Davis is a much better mother to black kids than Charlotte York-Goldenblatt would be, I’ll tell you that much. There’s no black kid who would want to wear that much pastel and gingham!
Here’s Kristin on Red Table Talk: