Sebastian Stan Got Shit For Lecturing About The Importance Of Consent In A Post Celebrating The Emmy Nominations For “Pam & Tommy”

July 13, 2022 / Posted by:

Yesterday FX’s Pam & Tommy was nominated for 10 Emmys, including Outstanding Limited or Anthology Series and acting noms for Lily James as Pamela Anderson, Sebastian Stan as Tommy Lee, and Seth Rogen as the dude who stole the couple’s sex tape. The miniseries was controversial because the real Pam didn’t give her blessing. Sources close to her said she felt violated by this unauthorized retelling of her story, and it was like “re-opening a wound.”  Courtney Love, a longtime friend of Pam, said that it was “further causing her [Pam] complex trauma.” The whole thing is especially fucked because Pam & Tommy made it clear that Pam was the victim and the sex tape was shared without her consent. Yet, they retold Pam’s story without her consent. Ipso facto, they’re gross too.

But I guess nobody told Sebastian Stan any of this, because, after the nominations were announced yesterday, he posted a statement on Instagram patting himself on the back for making a show about consent and exploitation, “a crime that we were ALL a culprit of, as media and audience combined.” Yeah, but, like, especially you, right? The 39-year-old capped it all off by tagging Pam and Tommy. To quote Dorinda from The Real Housewives of New York: “I’m insulted by the audacity of her narcissism.”

Sebastian begins his post by thanking and congratulating the cast and crew. The second half of the statement is where he gets ~*political*~:

#PAMANDTOMMY is about a crime that took place without Consent. It was a crime on privacy, a crime on love, a crime on family, and a crime that we were ALL a culprit of, as media and audience combined, and it’s now more timely than ever. I hope this can only help continue the conversation we had hoped to bring to light, and that we can remember to re-examine our projections and our salacious attitudes not only towards @pamelaanderson and @tommylee, but also towards ourselves and our exploitation of one another.

SEE YOU AT THE EMMYS! Here’s the original post with the caption:

Lily James reposted a version Sebastian also posted to his Stories, adding, “beautifully said. HERE HERE!!!!”:

A screenshot was reposted to Reddit, and Buzzfeed did a roundup of some of the angry comments:

“Funny how my ‘salacious attitude’ didn’t make me star in a show further exploiting Pam, who explicitly stated she was not for this production. Tone deaf moronic asshole,” one person wrote.

“He also tagged Pamela Anderson who allegedly finds reliving this traumatic,” someone else added. “Also, mind you, this show introduced a whole new generation of people to look up that sex tape. So, in short, they’re complicit. That’s their contribution to the conversation.”

“He has quite the balls to speak about consent, something Pamela did not give to this show,” another mused. Someone else commented: “Poor Pamela. He actually tagged her. Wtf.” One person replied: “For real, that was actually a nasty thing to do.”

Reddit commenters also brought up the fact that Sebastian admitted he’d watched Pam and Tommy’s sex tape “for research”:

“And he watched the tape for ‘research’ but sure Seb, tell yourself we’re all to blame,” one Reddit user said of his Instagram post. Someone else wrote: “Knowing he watched the tape for ‘research purposes’ when one of the victims finds it traumatic, it’s vile coming from him.”

“No, I’m not [a culprit],” one more said. “I didn’t steal the tape. I’ve never watched the tape. And I certainly never made a show about the tape so that I could get nominated for an Emmy.”

Sebastian has yet to respond to the backlash and his original post remains (for now). Back in March, Pam took to Instagram to announce that she was working with Netflix to make a documentary about her life: “Not a victim, but a survivor & alive to tell the real story.” It was the closest she ever got to officially commenting on the Pam & Tommy situation. If Sebastian’s lucky, maybe his little statement will be included in the doc. And if he’s extra lucky, he’ll win the Emmy, and his (likely extremely stupid) acceptance speech will get in there, too.


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