YouTube Couple Myka And James Stauffer Brought The Tears As They Explained Why They Placed Their Adopted Autistic Son From China With A New Family
Yesterday, I kept seeing headlines about a “YouTube couple” and usually my brain automatically shuts down after seeing those words but then I saw the word “rehomed” and figured they gave up an animal after it chewed one of this lady’s Tory Burch suede flip-flops. But they didn’t give up an animal. They gave up a human child. A human child they adopted from China two and a half years ago and who was a part of their family and helped up their YouTube subscriber count and get them sponsors.
The YouTubers Myka and James Stauffer named the now four-year-old boy Huxley Stauffer and documented the adoption process, which brought them thousands of new subscribers and more money. But when their followers noticed that Huxley wasn’t in recent YouTube videos, Myka and James put on their shaky “THIS IS SO HARD” voices and slathered themselves in innocent angel white to bring the glycerine tears in a video explaining that they found Huxley a more suitable home because he’s Autistic and they just weren’t equipped to deal with his special needs. Every piece of shit in the land is throwing a look like, “And people call ME a piece of shit?!”
BuzzFeed News says that Myka, who lives in Ohio with her family, became a YouTuber in 2014 and that’s when she married James. Myka had a daughter, 8-year-old Kova, from another relationship. Before adopting Huxley, Myka and James made two kids together, 6-year-old daughter Jaka and 4-year-old son Radley. After adopting Huxley, they had another son, 11-month-old Onyx. And well, now we know that the most cruel thing they’ve ever done isn’t giving their kids those names. Here’s all of them in January:
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My people 👊🏻🤍✨Every day has new struggles, and new hardships but, there isn’t anyone else I would rather experience this with! We make memories like we eat carbs 🇮🇹, we laugh often, and being goofy and playful are a norm around our house! 💕✨#blessed #dontsweatthesmallstuff #familyof7 #mytribe #familyfirst #familyfirst #bigfamily #bigfamilylife #family #familyphotography #familypic #familypictures #familycomesfirst 📸 Photo Cred: @initialfocus
Currently, Myka’s YouTube channel has 715,000 subscribers and the family’s channel called The Stauffer Life has 330,000 subscribers. Their subscriber count grew thanks to their videos on the process of adopting Huxley in China. They first announced in a YouTube video that they were adopting a boy from China in July 2016. Myka put out 27 videos about their “adoption journey” and her most-watched video titled, Huxley’s EMOTIONAL Adoption Video!! GOTCHA DAY China Adoption, has 5.5 million views. Myka’s sponsors include Glossier, Good American, and Fabletics, and at least one “adoption journey” video was sponsored by Dreft. Myka admitted in a video from 2017 that they were using money made from ad money to adopt Huxley. Myka also started a “fundraiser” to get donations from followers to fund the trip to China and help pay for the adoption.
Before Myka and James brought Huxley to America to live with them, they were told by the adoption agency in China that he had a “brain tumor” and “brain damage.” Myka wrote in a 2019 article for Parade that she and James originally wanted to adopt a child from Africa but because Ethiopia’s adoption program was temporarily shut down, they decided on China. Myka wrote that China only allows U.S. couples to adopt children with special needs and that wasn’t in their original plan but “God softened our hearts” and made them “open to almost every special needs in the book.” I guess the Snuggle that God used to soften their hearts wasn’t strong enough.
Myka wrote that when they brought Huxley home, they found out that the adoption agency in China left a lot out:
When we came home, we experienced a big surprise with inaccurate file information. Our son ended up having a stroke in utero, has level 3 autism, and sensory processing disorder. It took a lot of time to process and to readjust to his new diagnosis. We spent 10 months preparing for brain tumors and never once did I read about autism or stroke damage—it was a curve ball.
Today, he’s 4 and just starting to form words and repeat some of the words he hears and has over 15 signs. He is a great kid and his condition doesn’t involve that much overall care—all you need is a big heart and practice patience everyday. It’s a different kind of patience. He does receive 30 hours of ABA [Applied Behavior Analysis] in-home therapy a week and goes to private preschool to help reach his highest potential.
But Myka later told Moms.com that Huxley has taught her a lot and she loves him unconditionally.
Since then, Myka regularly posted about Huxley, but a couple of months ago, he seemed to vanish from her channel and Instagram page. The last time she mentioned Huxley was in a video from February. But when Myka stopped pimping out Huxley for views, followers wondered what happened and when a fan who runs a Myka Stauffer fan account (yes, those exist) asked about him, Myka blocked the fan. Other started pages like “Justice for Huxley”
So that brings us to Tuesday when Myka and James shat up a video titled “an update on our family” where they admitted that after talking to several medical professionals, they realized that they weren’t a good fit for Huxley’s needs and found him a more suitable “forever home” (again, this is a human child we’re talking about). via People:
“For us, it’s been really hard hearing from the medical professionals, a lot of their feedback, and things that have been upsetting,” he continued. “We’ve never wanted to be in this position. And we’ve been trying to get his needs met and help him out as much as possible … we truly love him.”
“There’s not an ounce of our body that doesn’t love Huxley with all of our being,” Myka tearfully added. “There wasn’t a minute that I didn’t try our hardest and I think what Jim is trying to say is that after multiple assessments, after multiple evaluations, numerous medical professionals have felt that he needed a different fit and that his medical needs, he needed more.”
“Do I feel like a failure as a mom? Like, 500 percent,” Myka said, saying that Huxley was living with a “new mommy” in a “forever home.”“The last couple months have been like the hardest thing I could have ever imagined to going to choosing to do because ultimately, after pouring our guts and our heart into this little boy,” she said. “He is thriving, he is happy, he is doing really well, and his new mommy has medical professional training, and it is a very good fit.”
The video isn’t totally serious, they bring the comedy by asking for privacy (HAHAHHA!) and saying that they aren’t going to get into further details. I bet they aren’t. Here’s the video of Myka’s MLM schemer eyebrows quivering with woe while talking about giving up poor Huxley:
Some defended Myka and James saying that they did the right thing for Huxley by putting him with someone who can take care of him better, but many are grossed out by this and there’s a Change.org petition demanding that they remove all monetized videos that Huxley is in.
Also, writer Sophie Ross claims that Huxley is actually with a foster family and the family is in the process of adopting him so he’s not exactly in a “forever home” (as Myka put it) yet. Sophie also pointed out that they duct-taped Huxley’s hand to stop him from sucking his thumb (and they allegedly didn’t do that with their other children who sucked their thumbs). And they apparently flaunted the fanciness while talking about how Huxley’s speech therapy sessions were too expensive so they’re taking him to a cheaper one:
And here’s a video of her talking about downgrading Huxley’s speech therapy from a $500/month one to a $70/month one while she waves around the ~$6500 Cartier bracelet on her wrist. pic.twitter.com/xVDLHqbvXh
— Sophie Ross (@SophRossss) May 28, 2020
So let’s see, they adopted a boy from China, brought him to the U.S., named him fucking Huxley, and made him part of their “brand” for two years (while making a lot of money off of him) before deciding that it was too hard and giving him up? It sounds like Huxley is lucky to be away from those messes and is hopefully with a better family, but still! Lucifer’s minions are in Hell’s special place right now, putting up a plaque that reads: The Myka and James Stauffer Ward. I mean, they named the child Huxley. HUXLEY!