Alec Baldwin’s wife, the mother of four of his thoughtful little kittens (I’m sure that’s what he calls them now), and Instagram yoga artiste Hilaria Baldwin posted a bare belly lingerie pic on her usual stomping grounds (or downward dogging-ing grounds I should say) last week with a caption about how she’s pregnant with her fifth child and believes she’s having a miscarriage. Hilaria went on Today (via People) this morning and she’s still not exactly sure whether she is experiencing a miscarriage or not. She also continued sharing her story, fueled by her desire to lessen the stigma around miscarriage and first-term pregnancy. And she also answered to people calling her an attention whore for sharing her thoughts on Instagram.
Hilaria said that she thinks she’s having a miscarriage because her fetus’ heartbeat is very weak and faint:
“Baldwin recalled that she first learned about her pregnancy complications during a regular check-in appointment. She realized something was wrong when her technician got quiet.”
Jesus, that must have been scary! They should teach technicians to keep up nonstop mumbling about white noise subjects like Netflix and breakfast cereals and camping, just to put patients at ease. Hmmmm…it must be hard to be a technician.
“The silence makes you very nervous,” Baldwin said. “And this technician, she just kept being quiet and kept on trying to find the heartbeat. She could find it and she’d listen to it and hear it, [but it was] very spread apart and slow.”
Oy, now I’m feeling ferklempt for the poor technician! They should bring HER onto Today to talk to Savannah Guthrie and Hoda Kotb about how difficult it must be to do ultrasounds all day, much less on Instagram yoga artistes! The whole thing sounds terrifying for Hilaria AND Technician Susie. (I gave her a name–is that wrong?)
Hilaria also said that when you miscarry, some people will blame you for eating wrong or sleeping wrong. She says that’s one reason why she decided to “live-Instagram” her possible miscarriage, so to speak:
“Of course everybody is different, but if you’re having a strong, healthy pregnancy, there’s not a lot you can do to hurt it,” Baldwin said on Tuesday. “That being said, we should do as right as we can by our children, but we just need to be a little more forgiving of ourselves and not so much perfectionists because it’s hard enough as it is.”
Hilaria went on:
“Pregnancy loss is a topic that touches almost everyone—10 to 25 percent of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage. I’m not surprised at how common they are. Almost every single one of my friends has experienced some kind of struggle with infertility or miscarriage. I had such a fear of miscarriage with each of my pregnancies that I’d google the probability of miscarriage each day. And yet we’re still so quiet about it.”
And went on about people telling her she’s a master at oversharing:
“For me personally, it would be harder to do it silently,” she said. “Being open for me just allowed me relief a little bit,” she said. “To people, secrets are only scary when they’re secrets. Once you let the secret out, it’s not so scary any more.”
And about her choosing that bare belly lingerie pic, she says that posing while holding her bare belly is her thing and every baby she’s pregnant with deserves to be part of her bare belly lingerie Instagram posts:
“This is also my baby. I take these belly photos (with every pregnancy) and this baby deserves the same kind of love, and attention, and acceptance as the other ones even if it’s not going to stick around for very long,” she said.
Whatever you think about Hilaria being so open about possibly miscarrying, I think we can all agree that there’s a 100% chance that on the streets below Today’s studios, Alec Baldwin was punching someone out over a parking spot as he waited for her to finish up. That really just goes without saying.
Here’s her interview: