Danity Kane was one of those girl groups of the early-aughts that was formed on TV during the boom of reality television. Diddy‘s MTV series, Making The Band, saw Danity Kane get chosen to become the next big thing and then at the end of the third season of their reality show, he fired two of the five Kanes. DK eventually broke up. But Danity Kane is back as a threesome with group members Dawn Richard, Aubrey O’Day, and Shannon Bex,and they’re touring. They’re also telling Cosmopolitan all about the dark behind the scenes secrets of the show and Diddy, and it’s as sexist as you can imagine.
The new DK told Cosmo about what it was like doing Making The Band, and what it was like working with Diddy. We all know that Aubrey and Diddy were as tight as Diddy is with self-awareness and humbleness (so, not at all). So it’s not a shock that things were tense, and Aubrey says that one of the reasons Diddy gave for dropping her from the group was that she was a big slut. I guess in the world of Diddy, Diddy’s the only one allowed to be a ho.
Dawn: It wasn’t about her being “promiscuous.” It was about the power to prove, “I own your career”.
Aubrey: And I’m not promiscuous. I didn’t lose my virginity until my senior year of college.
Dawn: …It gave him an excuse. It was to let you know, “This is my show, this is my shit, and I want to prove to you that it’s my shit and I’m going to show you how much power I have over you by saying I’m going to control your lives.” It’s so much bigger than that even though, you’re right, it was extremely sexist.
I’m sure that someone like Diddy with his extensive career, connections and money, is very offended by someone’s promiscuity. Because he himself is clearly a highly chaste individual.
On how Aubrey was the designated “Bitch, you ask mom” member of the band:
Dawn: …I remember having discussions with D. and when we would talk, we would always say, it had to be Aubrey because we would say shit and the first thing that they would tell us is, if you’re a black women, we’re going to paint you as the angry black women.
Aubrey: If something needed to change, we’d all get together first and they’d be like, “Aubrey, go do it.” Because as a white women with big tits, everybody laughed it off…
How Diddy would pit the girls against each other:
Dawn: We were constantly fighting for each other, but we were young, we had no idea how to grab the power of our unity.
Aubrey: And we wanted to be here and when you want to be in the industry…
Dawn: You try to play the game.
Aubrey: And Puff plays one of the dirtiest games there is around and that’s what we were exposed to at 17 years old.
And how Diddy could have been a supportive dude but was just a short-sighted, money-hongry asshole:
Aubrey: Imagine had Diddy just encouraged us to be our greatest selves at that time. Look at after all of that, we’re back together and we just did an incredible show that featured all of us in our greatness. Imagine had he made us believe in it at that age, what we could be right now.
Yeah imagine. Aubrey’s career might not have forced her to go on the Celebrity Apprentice and then she wouldn’t have had to bone Donald Trump Jr. I mean, if Diddy should apologize to her for anything, it better be that, among many, many other things.