Coming Out As Polyamorous Has Cost Nico Tortorella And His Partner An Invitation To Holiday Family Dinner
A little over a week from now, people all over the country will gather with their family to shove turkey and taters into their mouths while the seams of their pants hold on for dear life in the annual tradition of Thanksgiving. But Younger actor Nico Tortorella won’t be doing Thanksgiving with his partner’s family this year. If they show up, nobody will eat turkey, because they’ll be clutching their pearls.
Back in July, 29-year-old Nico opened up about his relationship to The Advocate in a piece titled This Is What a Queer Family Looks Like. Nico has been in an 11-year polyamorous relationship with his partner Bethany Meyers. Nico identifies as pansexual, Bethany as gay. Bethany’s family doesn’t approve of them publicly coming out as polyamorous. Nico spoke to People at the Worldwide Orphans Gala in New York on Monday. He says that their declaration of polyamory has made things pretty awkward for Thanksgiving this year.
“Honestly, it’s kind of a sensitive topic right this second. Because of all the attention that the relationship has gotten recently, we are coming up to the holiday season and because of certain things that were said, Bethany and I are not necessarily, completely welcome in her family celebrations this year.”
On the upside, Nico and Bethany won’t be forced to sit through any uncomfortable dinnertime conversations with that one uncle who has a real hot take on public bathroom laws. But despite not getting a welcome invitation to turkey day, Nico says he definitely wouldn’t keep quiet about his and Bethany’s relationship if he was given a do-over.
“No, no, absolutely not. It just means we have to talk about it more. There are millions of people in non-traditional relationships that get cut off from their families every single day and it’s not okay.”
Nico doesn’t say how he and Bethany will be spending the holidays. But oh boy, do I have a feeling they’re about to get a lot of invitations from internet strangers who don’t want to see a good looking polyamorous couple spend the holidays alone. I just hope no one is creepy about it. Like opening with a joke about needing two extra sets of hands to stuff their bird, or that they’re interested in both the leg and breast. Don’t make Thanksgiving weirder than it has to be.