The Closet Door Knob Is In Your Court, Mah Boo!
Those of you who guessed "Don Lemon" for that "Which TV personality is coming out?" blind item can give yourself a pat on the taint this morning. But you know, you should always start your day with a pat on the taint no matter what since it's the body part that barely gets any love. It's always getting splattered with all kinds of bodily fluids from our genitals and b-hole and we never thank it for that. We basically treat it like a back alley. It gets no love! It's like the Marlon Jackson of body parts. So we should all pat our taints to let it know that we care. But I'm digressing all over a post again. Let's move on to DON LEMON'S COMING OUT PARTY!!!!!
CNN's prime-time weekend anchor Don Lemon, who is Liz Lemon's ninth cousin once removed, made the decision to come out while writing his autobiography called Transparent. Don already admitted that he was child touched by a bishop, so he was a little wary because he didn't want people to think that's the reason why he loves the peen. Don also tells The New York Times that being gay and African-American is a totally different game.
“I’m scared. I’m talking about something that people might shun me for, ostracize me for.It’s quite different for an African-American male. It’s about the worst thing you can be in black culture. You’re taught you have to be a man; you have to be masculine. In the black community they think you can pray the gay away.
You’re afraid that black women will say the same things they do about how black men should be dating black women. I guess this makes me a double minority now.”
I'm not even touching that one with a Tyler Perry joke, so moving on. Don also says that he wishes more famous people would come twirling out of the closet (Geraldo Rivera's stache just twitched).
“I think it would be great if everybody could be out. But it’s such a personal choice. People have to do it at their own speed. I respect that. I do have to say that the more people who come out, the better it is for everyone, certainly for the Tyler Clementis of the world.I think if I had seen more people like me who are out and proud, it wouldn’t have taken me 45 years to say it,” Mr. Lemon said, “to walk in the truth.”
Good for Don! Being an out gay definitely has its perks. You can openly make out with a dude almost anywhere you want AND when you're listening to the Best of Aqua on the subway, you don't have to hide your iPod screen from prying eyes. It's a non-stop party! However, I will say that the real headline here should be: DON LEMON COMES OUT AS A 45-YEAR-OLD!
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Everywhere this story is published or put online, at least a handful of living-under-some-rock individuals will get all 1980s and say something like, "Who cares? Just do your job, we don't care about your sex life." Which really means if you are straight and write your autobiography, or do interviews, you don't have to hold back. But if you're gay, you're "rubbing it in people's faces" if you're honest. How do I explain the inequality of this, the unfairness... how it is so fucking dumb and OLD? Help me out here.
Oh this guy. I always thought he was kind of cute and I also thought he was like 30. Good for him. He never tweaked my gardar.
Is Mah Boo his boss?
I woulda liked to have been a fly on the wall during THAT interview.
Btw, he looks fucking great! He looks at least 10 years younger, dammit, it's always the GAYS who are HOT!
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Lol, Don just called Joy Behar Jewish!!
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I'm shocked that he's 45. Looks terrific.
Who is he?
Wouldn't it be too funny if he and the Coop were an item?
Oh please, I hate it when some people cry that most AAs are homophobic. Hell almost every black person knows or has some gay cousin, nephew, son, uncle, aunt etc. And if they don't they see them around the neighborhood or at church. The problem is that most families aren't embracing that person's lover. But believe me, they are well aware of that person's sexuality and usually have no problem with it.
I think Mr. Lemon was afraid to come out more for his own personal reasons...aka his career. But the fact that his lover is a producer at CNN (per his NPR interview), I think he will do just fine... rme
Damn - he's pretty!
I don't know who he is, but he looks exactly like an acquaintance of mine who holds a rather high public office in the South. I had to do a double take.
Too stone now, but he's getting at double consciousness, one forever feeling one's twoness, being black and being American (see DuBois, "The Souls of Black Folk"). sort of like Countee Cullen writing about being black, American, and gay in his poetry (it's there, quite a bit of queers during the Harlem Renaissance). It's about negotiating space. And during the Black Power Movement, there were tract written by folks denouncing homosexuality (see Iceberg Slim, Amiri Baraka, etc.). Of course blacks aren't anymore homophobic than whites, Asians, etc. But I think it's okay to look at, talk about, and learn how a particular community approaches it. Studying how homosexuality operates in the Middle East or in the America West during a particular period. Hope there aren't too many typos because I'm not going back to proofread.
I'm glad that Corey from "Julia" finally came out.
It is more shocking to me this bitch is 45! Gaydar was a pingin' when he came back to CNN a few weeks back. But I had no clue he was a closeted oldie! Damn! I made him for about 35! Well.. Welcome to the fresh and bright world, Don! And I hope more folks take your lead, too! Getting DAMN TIRED of a certain sector of society (feel free to read that as Tea Baggers) making life a bigger bitch for women and gays with their bullshit hateful bills! Maybe if some bitches were aware being gay is normal .. Yes! I am talking to you Michelle "Batshit" Bachmann! .. They might mellow the fuck out! JMHO!
WHO!? And why is it always ppl we dont give a fuck about
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Dammit. I was hoping Don Lemon would one day come out as someone who makes intelligent comments on a news channel. Oh well. As for the gay, sorry Don, DGAS. Never have.
Having been black, gay, and out for 10 years, I can say you will come up against as much adversity for being black in the gay community as you will for being gay in the black community. Perhaps that is my single experience, but I think it is advisable to be an individual rather than focusing on being black or being gay. Just be. Love yourself, and surround yourself with people that appreciate and respect you and you won't be tied to a community's opinion of who they think you are. You will never find 100% acceptance in one place, nor will you be entirely ostracized in another.
This blowhole can't really say what it's like to be gay in the black community since he's been in the fucking closet for 45 years. What an asshole.
Submitted by stefystef on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 11:47am.
Is anyone straight anymore?
I guess we women are just left with fat, stupid schmucks and $10 vibrators. ~sigh~
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aint that the truth!!!!!!!!!!!
If black men are so bent on being men, why are so many single black women raising their children....alone????
A recent biography about Malcolm X discloses many details about the time during his life when he was gay for pay, as well as the ongoing, long-term relationship he had with a white business man (book review in "Empty Closet" - May issue). It should be taken in context, of course--how a young black man on the streets hhustles for survival, but shouldn't be overlooked, either. X's sexuality was arbitrarily left out of past biographies because of the stigma of homosexuality on black men and this mythology of strong black men.
Granted there are many strong black men who DO assume responsibility, and such men do not deserve to be stereotyped, it is too bad this belief has such a stronghold in the black community when so many black men don't (assume responsibility), because it doesn't make it easy for men like Don Lemon and that ain't right.
Is anyone straight anymore?
I guess we women are just left with fat, stupid schmucks and $10 vibrators. ~sigh~
Oh, and since it is "Coming Out Day", here's another closet door opening:
http://sports.yahoo.com/nba/blog/ball_dont_lie/post/Suns-president-Rick-...
Basketball is gay anyway. *LMAO*
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Although I do not watch CNN as much as I used to, I am as surprised as I am when I found out he was in his forties. Black don't crack! But anyway, he is right. No matter what people say, there is a huge stigma in the black community about being gay. With a lot of people having such an integral religious component in their lives, it's not even a question. If it isn't about you going against "God's word", it is that you are not manly enough, and yada yada. Why do you think that no male actors or rappers have come out? They will not be "manly or tough enough" as the persona they had before then when they came out.
Submitted by Miss Thang on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 10:33am.
Submitted by dementa on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 9:23am.
Normally I don't care when a person comes out, but in this case it really is brave, since gay black men face a lot of prejudice.
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As a black woman, I really resent this stereotype. AAs are no more homophobic than anyone else, especially in the South. Don is in denial. His momma knew he was gay, his pappy knew he was gay, and I'm sure a fair amount of his family and friends knew he was gay. Hell, I knew he was gay and I only watch him on TV. His loved ones probably just felt awkward talking to him about it because, hello, it's just an awkward subject to bring up with your son/brother/cousin/friend. He is insecure, so he just couldn't resist throwing in a few digs at other AA men and women. I've lost a great deal of respect for him for pulling this stunt.
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you've put into words exactly what i wanted to say...
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Submitted by lelu on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 11:12am.
I said the exact same thing. I was like "okay he's gay" and then "OMG HE IS 45? WOW" He looks so good for his age.
Submitted by SpiceDong on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 11:07am.
wait, are you still talking about Don Lemon or your latest sexcapade? :-P
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Submitted by stinkbutt on Mon, 03/29/2010 - 5:47pm.
suckandfuck, do us all a favor, and hang yourself. Oh, and your parents should be shot for raising a disgusting pig like yourself.
I think the more shocking revelation is that he's 45! He looks fantastic.
Submitted by suckandfuck on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 9:00am.
ahahha he probably loves guys to piss in his mouth too, since he is DEFINITELY a fag and admits it!! He loves it when guy's sweat on his face, like they bunch up and twist their arm pit hairs to ring them out over his mouth so he can drink all the pit sweat and cum hard cuz that's what he likes ommg I am so grossed out!! EWWWWWWWWW!!! -------------------------------------------------
wait, are you still talking about Don Lemon or your latest sexcapade? :-P
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnAQRodZNp0
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I don't find his remarks to be offensive because they are true. There is nothing inherent about being black that makes you more likely to be homophobic of course. But if you look at it at an institutional level, the black community as a whole there are numerous social trends that lead to a greater amount of homophobia. We all know that skin colour does not dictate ones character but the black population in general has had a different experience in this country due to centuries of oppression and different treatment.
Submitted by jenelle on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 10:37am.
It's very true that it's tough to be gay in the black community, I think it's great for guys like Don to be open about it.
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I think it's tough for a self hating, insecure person in ANY community.
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Miss Thang on
you expressed so elegantly what I feel
"I will pee myself today and when someone asks, "what is that smell?", I will happily tell them Veluptuous by KK!" Urmomma
Actually did not see this one coming at all, I watch CNN daily, had absolutely no clue. Good for him though, I've always liked Don this only adds to my respect for him.
As much as we like to think it's not a big deal in this day, for way too many people it still is. If no one cared about people's sexuality anymore we would have equal rights, fact is we don't. It's very true that it's tough to be gay in the black community, I think it's great for guys like Don to be open about it. The more that take his route and choose not to hide the better it gets.
Am I the only one having a problem with what this guy is saying? Being a gay black male is the WORST? What a great message to send out there. I am not black, nor am I a gay male. But I've had many wonderful gay friends of different races and I don't think their color made it any easier to come out.
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Submitted by dementa on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 9:23am.
Normally I don't care when a person comes out, but in this case it really is brave, since gay black men face a lot of prejudice.
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As a black woman, I really resent this stereotype. AAs are no more homophobic than anyone else, especially in the South. Don is in denial. His momma knew he was gay, his pappy knew he was gay, and I'm sure a fair amount of his family and friends knew he was gay. Hell, I knew he was gay and I only watch him on TV. His loved ones probably just felt awkward talking to him about it because, hello, it's just an awkward subject to bring up with your son/brother/cousin/friend. He is insecure, so he just couldn't resist throwing in a few digs at other AA men and women. I've lost a great deal of respect for him for pulling this stunt.
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Independent news media have reported that Cooper is gay,[34] and in May 2007, Out magazine ranked him second behind David Geffen in its list of the fifty "Most Powerful Gay Men and Women in America."[35] When asked about his sexuality, he stated,
"I understand why people might be interested. But I just don’t talk about my personal life. It’s a decision I made a long time ago, before I ever even knew anyone would be interested in my personal life. The whole thing about being a reporter is that you're supposed to be an observer and to be able to adapt with any group you’re in, and I don’t want to do anything that threatens that."[6] He has, however, discussed his desire to have a family and children.[7]Anderson Cooper
also look
http://gawker.com/5392766/anderson-cooper-is-a-giant-homosexual-and-ever...
he aint coming out people
"I will pee myself today and when someone asks, "what is that smell?", I will happily tell them Veluptuous by KK!" Urmomma
I'm soooo surprised... *yawn*
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I am glad he decided to come out because how many educated, out black celebrities are out there? Not too many. If Anderson never comes out, that is also fine. There are plenty of white men that can take up his slack and carry the torch.
But we cannot keep waiting on Arsenio and Eddie to come out any time soon!
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Submitted by tornadolie on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 10:09am.
Please keep them facts about the workings of the human mind coming. I would have loved to study Psychology, but for reasons I don't fully comprehend myself I picked French.
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Who are you calling silly cow?
ok in NY they are many black gay's but I guess NY is different that some other states
I see couples and gay families
And I want to make a point about Cooper, he has not officially come out but he has not hidden it either, he has male roommates, been seen in vacations with a male, never had a beard etc...
My point that is that if you feel the need to come out do so, but dont live a lie dont pretend that you are straight, I understand why Cooper doesnt want to come out officially, magazine covers and etc, but I respect him all the same because he is not pretending to be straight.
And this guy Lemmons lost points in my book, why does it have to be a double discrimination if you are black? Sounds like you were either forced to come out or you want a pitty party, be gay and proud, dont go around feeling sorry for yourself.
"I will pee myself today and when someone asks, "what is that smell?", I will happily tell them Veluptuous by KK!" Urmomma
You can be masculine, man, and gay, Mr. Lemon. I'd be offended, but I don't have a clue who Don Lemon is.
I major in Psychology. In class last year, we were taught how gay black men were at high risk for suicide.
Submitted by TheBreakdown on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 10:00am.
First of all, THE most important thing about this item?
Black don't crack...unless you smoke it!
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punkieedwards honey:
I didn't want to offend anybody. My friends' experiences are different from yours obviously. And that's a good thing. Nobody should have to deal with the kind of stuff they had to deal with.
First of all, THE most important thing about this item?
Black don't crack...unless you smoke it!
Secondly, he is speaking about his own personal experience being gay and black and so take it with a grain of salt.
And if he didn't come out, someone would have outed him eventually and then it would have been worse. Besides, his star is on the rise and the tabloids love to knock someone down whenever they can.
And of course Anderson Cooper thinks he is too good to come out. Watch him have children and STILL not come out. Because he certainly isn't gonna have an ass baby!
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Submitted by punkieedwards on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 9:49am.
I have been Black for 26 years now and I have never heard any of this crap that Don is spewing.
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Just curiosity speaking, what color were you 27 years ago?
Submitted by bambam on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 9:43am.
One, he looks young because he's gay, okay? If dude's gay you know he's gonna take care of his looks
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*peers into the mirror*.... yep, i'm straight!... holy jeebus, i look like shit!!
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Submitted by chestybongos on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 9:06am.
I don't have very good gaydar but my blackdar is first rate. I never would have figured he was gay but I could tell he was black as soon as I saw him. I kid you not.
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Submitted by stinkbutt on Mon, 03/29/2010 - 5:47pm.
suckandfuck, do us all a favor, and hang yourself. Oh, and your parents should be shot for raising a disgusting pig like yourself.
I usually don't comment on Dlisted but I have to speak up now.
@DirkDigler
I don't know what race you are, but please do not pretend like you have any idea what it is like to be Black in America. Your "friends" sound like idiots.
I have been Black for 26 years now and I have never heard any of this crap that Don is spewing. I don't know why he needed to throw AAs and AA women under the bus after he came out of the closet but it seems like he is projecting his insecurities. Having lived in the south I can assure you that "praying the Gay away" is something that many White, Black, Asian etc people do.
All he had to say is "I am finally comfortable enough to come out as who I truly am and hope that the negative stereotypes that have been put on me and others like myself will disappear in the coming years."
Ridiculous! Don, take a look in the mirror and realize that you don't have to stand on other people to make yourself to look taller! Be an advocate and not a part of the problem.
One, he looks young because he's gay, okay? If dude's gay you know he's gonna take care of his looks. Two, he's right, certain segments, hell, large segments of black society still hate on gay black men. I figure he's coming out to the people closest to him more than anyone else. If it helps sell some book he's written, well that's how it goes these days doesn't it?
And to those of you complaining about him and other people coming out, c'mon, half these tabloids and blogs are in existence solely on guessing and opining on who's really gay or not and you patronize them just for that bit of juicyness. Amiright or amiright about that?
I like Don Lemon.
I wish Cooper would come out, only because he WAS out and suddenly ran back in and slammed the closet door once he got the CNN gig.
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Don Lemon is my favorite, and this makes it even better. Though perhaps I shall have to scratch him off my "future husband" list.
This is fucking annoying. As an out, African_American gay myself, I think Don should speak for himself. Sure there's an added component to the being a black and gay, but this fool is just whining so People Magazine will slip a check into his double minority ass crack. Kudos for coming out, but don't start sounding the bell for everyone to do it when it clearly wasn't on the top of your priority list. It's kind of hypocritical to start telling every one else how to live just because you've been out of the closet for 5 minutes. Actually, just shut the fuck up. He's still in the default window period, bitch could go back in the clost.
When did it become so damn important for us to know someones sexual preference? I am not in a relationship (nor do I want one) with him and neither are any of you...... Why do people insist on telling the world they are gay, straight, bi or lesbian? Wasn't life much simpler when the ones that NEEDED to know, knew?
I frankly don't give a rats ass what he is....just do what you were hired to do and keep your sexual preferences to ones self, Mr. Lemmon.
Well it really wouldn't surprise me if a lot of the TV newscasters turned out to be gay, I've suspected certain ones of them were for quite a while (not naming any names). Heck my own mother was watching Celebrity Apprentice last night and now she thinks Meatloaf is gay cause he's just
"so emotional" and said he was sashaying his hips around too much.
Anything is possible I guess..